Will The Underdog Seahawks Fight To The Finish Or Sit Down On The Job?

I can't tell you who will win The Big Game on Sunday.

Both the Underdog Seahawks and the Top-Dog Broncos have fought well to have their place in the spotlight.  They deserve to be there.  During the game there will be moment, however, where the goal of that coveted Vince Lombardi Trophy will appear to hang far away in the balance of fate and destiny. In those moments we'll see players sitting on the sidelines shaking their heads, maybe even close to crying.

The winner of the game will be shaped in those moments.

Will they, who have fought so hard to be on that field, rise to the challenge?
Will they overcome whatever their opponents, the weather, their physical limitations, the media and others have thrown at them to triumph?

It's a question many women ask themselves everyday.

Without the glitz and the glamor, they are fighting out their battles.   The car breaks down a week before pay-day.  Three kids have been sick on and off for two weeks.  They are physically spent from just day to day life.  These are the moments the winners of the game of life will be shaped.

Just as the football player on the sideline who has seen the other team catch pass after pass, these women may need to sit down on the sidelines and shake their heads for a few moments.  They may need to find support outside of their husband.  They may need to reconnect with their desires to create a dream home life for themselves and their family.

I've had those moments in my own life.  The night my 16-yr-old stepson got out of the house (again) and I still had to get up to feed and entertain my three kids under 3 the next day.  The moment my investment home was halfway remodeled and the funds had run dry.  The night we had been on a family hike 3 hours when I slipped and hit my hip on a rock  (the bruise was bigger then my hand the next day and dark blue).   The darkest night when I just couldn't get myself to sleep in the same bed with "him".  It was in these moments that my biggest wins were formed.

Each time I reconnected with my vision of the "dream" home life and family.  Each time I knew I had to be able to sit down with myself later and say "Hey, I did everything I could to win this game".  The beautiful moments I enjoy in my life now are that much richer because I pushed through those devastating moments.

So to all you women who want to live your dream of a strong family I don't know what you will have to do win your game.  Have courage.  You will be inspired how to form the gutsy plays that will mean the difference between jail or college, divorce and golden anniversaries.  Over and over I have coached women who were at the point of despair, they were sure their dream life was lost.  Whether they created for themselves, or watched others shape it,  their conflicts only give rise to greater victories to come.

LOVE Must Be Grown!!! (both Emotional Infatuation and Spiritual Service)

Since he has closed the comments on this blog I want to post my comments publicly on my pages!!!!!!

First to the author......
I agree and disagree....
The emotional feelings you had WERE and ARE LOVE!!!!
God gave us the gift of emotional love so we would GIVE to each other the most special parts of our lives.  It is a critical part of every relationship!  Emotional love fosters a desire to give!  Give yourself, your physical body, your time, your lusts, and only to that person.

 I LOVE the way you describe how your wife looks at you when you offer to do something for her!  That is love, more like spiritual love, but knowing you have developed deep spiritual love (where you desire to serve her) does not discount or negate the emotional love.  It also does not negate the fact that you can and should find ways to create that emotional love again, even 5, 10, 15, 40 or 70 years into your marriage.  I know couples who are 60 and 70 years into their marriage and they FIND and stimulate emotional love in their relationship. 

You had this spiritual love when you were dating and first got married, you just didn't notice it as much because the need for it was not as strong.  The spiritual desire to serve had to be stimulated and kindled.  At that time your emotional love was so strong you didn't need the spiritual love stimulated to keep together.  BOTH types of love need to be valued, worked for and stimulated at ALL times for a strong relationship that both desire to be in.

To the author, and your reader #MajorCN,  how sad if anyone gets married without knowing how to stimulate and kindle emotional love.  How sad that anyone would get married thinking (based on bad advice) that the emotional love would just "come".  It CAN come and will come, but you must learn and train yourself and your spouse how to create it and stimulate it.  There are many places you can get support about this.

To everyone still reading this (thanks) AND... one the same token the spiritual love can be lost when someone goes way overboard in giving to much of themselves.  Then love turns sour and becomes like a noose around the person and the relationship.

Find, stimulate and foster both emotional love for yourself AND for your spouse.  Find things that stimulate both types of love for both of you THEN you will find true Joy and contentment!