LOVE Must Be Grown!!! (both Emotional Infatuation and Spiritual Service)

Since he has closed the comments on this blog I want to post my comments publicly on my pages!!!!!!

First to the author......
I agree and disagree....
The emotional feelings you had WERE and ARE LOVE!!!!
God gave us the gift of emotional love so we would GIVE to each other the most special parts of our lives.  It is a critical part of every relationship!  Emotional love fosters a desire to give!  Give yourself, your physical body, your time, your lusts, and only to that person.

 I LOVE the way you describe how your wife looks at you when you offer to do something for her!  That is love, more like spiritual love, but knowing you have developed deep spiritual love (where you desire to serve her) does not discount or negate the emotional love.  It also does not negate the fact that you can and should find ways to create that emotional love again, even 5, 10, 15, 40 or 70 years into your marriage.  I know couples who are 60 and 70 years into their marriage and they FIND and stimulate emotional love in their relationship. 

You had this spiritual love when you were dating and first got married, you just didn't notice it as much because the need for it was not as strong.  The spiritual desire to serve had to be stimulated and kindled.  At that time your emotional love was so strong you didn't need the spiritual love stimulated to keep together.  BOTH types of love need to be valued, worked for and stimulated at ALL times for a strong relationship that both desire to be in.

To the author, and your reader #MajorCN,  how sad if anyone gets married without knowing how to stimulate and kindle emotional love.  How sad that anyone would get married thinking (based on bad advice) that the emotional love would just "come".  It CAN come and will come, but you must learn and train yourself and your spouse how to create it and stimulate it.  There are many places you can get support about this.

To everyone still reading this (thanks) AND... one the same token the spiritual love can be lost when someone goes way overboard in giving to much of themselves.  Then love turns sour and becomes like a noose around the person and the relationship.

Find, stimulate and foster both emotional love for yourself AND for your spouse.  Find things that stimulate both types of love for both of you THEN you will find true Joy and contentment!